Like most things in life, there is very much a right way and a wrong way of arranging a funeral. When a loved one passes away, there’s really nothing more important than arranging a fitting funeral service to pay your last respects and generally celebrate their life. However, one of the most painful realities of all that really hit home during these times is how difficult and expensive it can be to arrange a fitting send-off. This is the last time anyone would like to be wrestling with all manner of complications, but unless the process is approached with a clear head and a little forward knowledge in mind, it can be a truly unpleasant situation to cope with.
There are however some fairly simple tips for getting it right when it comes to arranging a funeral, which when combined will always make the process a little less painful at least. For example, the most important an immediate tip of all is that of time…as in taking it and not panicking. One of the biggest mistakes anyone can make when organising a funeral is that of rushing things along in a blind panic and not giving any logical or rational thought to anything. And in the same vein, you should never be rushed into a decision by anyone else involved in the process. So regardless of whether you’ve opted for a male or female funeral director, never be pressured into making a decision.
Another tip that’s often overlooked comes down to the overall expense of the service. Before getting to grips with putting it all into action, make a list and divide it down the middle into things you actually need and those that you just want instead. What has to be remembered is that it doesn’t say anywhere that in order for a funeral to be a beautiful tribute it has to be hugely expensive. As such, it’s a good day to take a step back from it all, think about what matters most of all and put the rest on the back burner.
It can be tempting to shoulder the burden solo and take over the whole process of organising the funeral from start to finish on your own, but this is almost always a recipe for disaster. From professional organisers to the family and friends around you, there will be so many people around that are ready and willing to help you out, so let them. The lighter the load, the higher the chance of a perfectly fitting funeral.
And finally, it’s important not to lose sight of the fact that the most beautiful and moving things in the world are often the simplest. As such, it’s not always necessary or appropriate to go completely OTT for the sake of a funeral, as too many distractions and unnecessary additions can take attention away from the core focus of the service – bidding farewell to a loved on. If necessary, ask for advice from a professional on how to make the best of the simplest funeral service.